If she is your real friend and you tell her you don’t want to smoke, then she will just leave it at that. If she continues to pressure you, it’s a friendship you are better off without. You won’t be more popular. You won’t have more friends. You may even lose friends because your breath and your clothes will smell. She may think it’s cool now, but she will regret it in the long run, and if you give in to her pressuring you, you’ll regret it, too. More about Amazon of smoke supplies
Don’t give in. Tell your friend that you still want to be friends with her but you don’t want to put your body in jeopardy. Tell her it’s her decision if she wants to smoke but that you don’t want to. Tell her that popularity doesn’t mean as much to you as your life does. Tell her you enjoy her friendship and you don’t want to stop being friends but that you don’t want to smoke.
There’s no way around peer pressure, so this situation is a toughie. Tell your friend that it’s not worth it and you’ve got better things to do. Make it clear to your friend that it’s a waste of money and time. Offer to do other activities that can’t be interrupted by smoking, such as sports or going places where your parents can see what you are doing. Don’t set yourself up to be as low as your friend. If she won’t listen to you, then tell her exercise is a good stress reliever, because that is probably why your friend smokes. If worse comes to worst, tell your friend that you can’t take it anymore and you don’t like to be with her when she smokes because that is all she can think about. Ask her what is more important: the cig or your friendship? A real friend would try to give up the cig to hang out with you. Hopefully you’ll get good results. Good luck!
By Rachel Matsil, Monroe-Woodbury High School
You’ve already tried helping your friend quit, but she refused. At this point, it’s her problem if she wants to continue smoking. However, just because you tried convincing her to stop doesn’t mean that she should convince you to start. Your friend needs to realize that when she started smoking, it was her own decision. Therefore, she should respect the fact that you can decide for yourself if smoking is what you want to do. A true best friend wouldn’t pressure her friend to do something she doesn’t want to do. You don’t have to deal with your friend; just do what you feel is right. If she continues pressuring you, it’s time for you to find a new best friend who shares common beliefs with you.
By Samantha Mascia, Milford, Pa.
Smoking is not a way to become more popular or gain more friends and get invited to parties. The only way that happens is if you are yourself and stay true to that. Your friend is peer-pressuring you to participate in her bad habit. You need to let her know that smoking is something you never want to do, and that is a good decision on your behalf. Your friend is going to regret her decision not to say no to smoking, but maybe you can continue to help her quit. Your friend should understand how you feel about smoking, because that’s what friends do they understand one another. If something like this breaks up your relationship, then that is not your fault. The only one who will suffer is your friend, because she will lose a good influence in her life.
By Alexis Bogart, Slate Hill
If you don’t want to smoke, tell her straight out. If she’s pressuring you, tell her to back up. Smoking is not cool whatsoever smoking is for fools. If she wants to ruin her health, that’s her choice, but make it clear that you don’t. If she doesn’t respect what you tell her then she’s not a very good friend.
By Angelina Ofray, Middletown